Community and Rhythm Do we need community? Does it just happen? As human beings, we are all created to be relational. Regardless of whether or not you are an introvert or an extrovert, every person has the desire to be known. When healthy, fulfilling relationships take place within a group of any size, we call that “community”. Though it may at times feel like community is something that just happens, more often than not it requires intentionality on our part to create the space that allows community to be formed.
Another word that is going to be important to our conversation about community is “rhythm”. What do you think of when you hear this word? Maybe a graceful dancer or the drum beat in your favorite song. For the purpose of this conversation, we are going to use the word “rhythm” in reference to the schedule pattern of your family. Every family has a rhythm. Some have a very structured rhythm, while others have a less structured and free flowing rhythm.
You may be wondering what rhythm has to do with community, and to answer that I am going to share a quote from the book Parenting Beyond Your Capacity. “Rhythm silently but significantly communicates value.” Is the rhythm of your family communicating to your children that you value intentionality in creating community?
Did you know…? “The most important element in parenting is the parent-child relationship not competency in certain skill.” - Catherine Stonehouse in Joining Children on the Spiritual Journey. Almost every time I talk to a parent, they mention something about how busy they are. Rather than giving you a list of things that you should add to your already busy schedule, I want to challenge you to think creatively about how you can create space within your current schedule to create community within you family. Think about time that can be redeemed…time in the car, time when you are eating together. YOU are the person best equipped to be able to figure out how to creatively create the space with your family’s rhythm to demonstrate that family community is something you value!
Throughout Scripture we read about believers fellowshipping and being in community together. Why is church community important for you as a parent? ‘Parents also need community to help them grow in their own knowledge of God and to support them in being parents who can effectively nurture their children.” – Parenting Beyond Your Capacity. There is nothing worse than feeling like you are facing a challenge alone. Though parenting is one of the greatest privileges you will ever have, it also will challenge you. Having people to walk with you on the days when you are at the end of your rope is an invaluable asset! It is also important that your children have community at church as it gives them the opportunity to see the people they look up to worshipping God and living out their faith. Remember, your rhythm of church attendance is communicating to your children what value you place on investing in church community.
- What do you think your current rhythm is communicating to your children about the value you place on family community?
- What is one way your family unit is doing community well now?
- What is something that you would like to do to improve community within your family?
- What do you think your current rhythm is communicating to your children about your value of church community?
- Do you feel like you have been able to find support in your current church community? Why of why not?
- How do you feel you are contributing to helping other parents find community at church?